With Kettie Melissa Mtawali
Isaiah 54:5 ESV
For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called.
Just by reading the scripture one may be saying God my husband? Wow how?
If you’re a single woman, the idea of God as your husband may be a wonderful comfort. Or it may sound like a cruel joke. If you’re a married woman, it might also seem very confusing.
I would like to say that as hard as it sounds it was very hard for me to embrace the fact that God was calling me to be his bride before being someone else’s bride but I came to an understanding that just the way I have always wanted my biological father to give away my hand in marriage physically God also wanted to give away my hand in marriage even though before that I thought letting God be my husband meant me living my whole life without a husband that was a no no for me.
Our need for companionship
One morning I was on a call with my friend. She said to me “Jesus can’t change my oil, watch a movie with me on a Friday night, or offer me a hug at the end of a tough day.” Amen, sister. Sure, he can accomplish these things—through the expertise, arms, and overall presence of his children allowing him to work through them. And that’s my point—this requires the presence of people. Not in place of God—but being God to us in those moments of need for help or human companionship.
Dear single ladies out there there is Joy in saying “I Do” to God before you say “I Do” to your priest, prophet and king and I want you to understand that you saying I Do to God is not a hindrance from getting your husband but rather it is a moment of preparation and finding wholeness remember he is the same God who said in Genesis 2:18 “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” I want you to know that God will reveal and usher you into his original design of marriage in the right season. Adam was right where God wanted him to be and doing exactly what he called him to do. This is one of the biggest, though often overlooked, keys to God revealing your spouse. You must be in the right season of your life before God will allow you to find the right one. There are two things that are being portrayed there: you need God and you need a human being. What does that combo of needing God and human beings look like?
Well, in my life it looks like the comfort I received after my last breakup which came not just from Psalm 55 and tearful worship times on the altar but also in sympathetic phone chats with my pastors, my bestfriend, my brother. These people were God’s comfort and companionship to me but I also want to tell you that this isn’t license to let friendships or romantic relationships take the place of God in our life.
I want you to understand that when my mindset shifted from what it was to allowing God become my husband first, I realised that I didn’t have to drain a man for love or affection or security because I found it in my Maker, my king wasn’t supposed to be burdened with the pressure of perfection;he doesn’t have to fill my cup. I am already whole-more than that, I am overflowing (Psalms 23:5). Instead of craving for my needs to be met, I can’t help but shower the man I love with the love I constantly receive from the one who created me. Instead of waiting for my king to tell me I am beautiful, I already know I am beautiful because my Maker tells me I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14), instead of always wanting to be understood I have learnt to understand my king because in God I am understood I am no mystery to God, He made me the way I am so of course he knows everything about me.
Women when you allow allow God to be your husband first or rather when you allow yourself to be God’s bride first, submission towards your king will come naturally because you are already in a place where you are submitting to God who is your husband I want you to know that the misconception of submission being a weakness would not stand anywhere near your mind because you have allowed yourself to submit before God, you will submit to your priest, prophet and king wholeheartedly knowing that it is all service unto the Lord. The bible states in 1 Corinthians 7:14 “ For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife” woman when you position yourself as a bride to God you are in a place where you are being sanctified which means when God brings forth your priest, prophet and king (your husband) there is no need for you to go through a process of sanctification inorder to sanctify your king because you are already sanctified this is why earlier on in this article I stated that saying “I Do” to God is a moment of preparation. One thing I also want you to understand is that when you say “I Do” to God you are in a place where you have a companion all the time even the best possible husband cannot be there 100% of the time. But God is! He’s never asleep, out of town, preoccupied, or sick. He won’t go away, and He will never die. You can count on Him to be there. As I am writing this article I have been in bed not feeling well since last night had it been that I was still in a moment where I had not allowed God to be my husband first I would be looking for my king to be there for me in this time of sickness but because my Maker is my husband I have a companion at all times declaring healing over me his presence has not left me, not to say that I don’t appreciate that my king was able to speak healing over me when I told him I was not feeling well but there could be a day or a time that I will need him the most and maybe he is in a work meeting or just at work that he can’t pick up my call at this point women, I know I have a companion my Maker.
I am a woman who believes that “ a woman’s heart should be so close to God that a man should have to chase him to find her” there are alot of women out there looking for a man whom they can serve God with or rather a man who is rooted in God I want to tell you today that when I allowed my Maker to be my husband I was in a place where my fruits in God sprang forth that I didn’t have to look for a man who is rooted in God but rather a man had to be rooted in God first then he was able to find me because I was already God’s bride and in service to my Maker this is where now your purposes align and you are able to help one another accomplish and go further in them I am a living testimony. In my previous article I talked about a woman being a helpmeet intercessor that God has called every woman to be her king’s intercessor all these attributes come back to what I am talking about today that when you allow your Maker to be your husband you are already in a place where intercession is part of you, remember God is spirit and the bible states that “the spirit intercedes for us” (Romans 8:26), intercession is not something that you will struggle with when God ushers you into his original design of marriage, you will wholeheartedly and with passion get on your knees and petition heaven on behalf of your king or marriage. The scripture also puts it in Mark 10:8 “and the two will become one flesh so they are no longer two but one” women your spirit and your husband’s spirit can only be brought together when you release yourself to your Maker as his bride because he is spirit and only that which is spirit can bring two spirits together to become one flesh allow your Maker to be your husband today and let him put your spirit and that of your God designed husband together for he is the author of marriage. Know that there is none like our God (Isaiah 46:9).
God is continuously claiming more roles in my life, and I hope my journey encourages you to open your heart and allow him to do the same. I love you all and I pray that you will open up your heart and allow your Maker become your husband and that you will find wholeness in him, that one day your fruits will be evident towards the life of your king and your marriage in Jesus name!
Are you ready to say “I Do” to your Maker?